does life really just happen?

1 Apr

i am convinced more than ever that if i want to realize the fullness of this life, i have to refuse to accept the idea that “life happens,” and therefore (passively) let life happen to me. i have been thinking that “life happens” is a cliché phrase that sounds wise, but holds no real truth – at least not as we typically deploy it. to suggest that life happens is to say that life happens apart from us.  but life does not happen without us, or better – life happens with us.  (stay with me.)  as we grow and mature, our worlds expand.  as we experience, our eyes widen (or narrow).  as we fall and struggle, survive and win, the process keeps changing.  and we can respond by developing walls, or by dismantling them.  by believing in people more, or less.  and not one of these are inevitable products of our experiences.  they are choices. life cannot “happen” without them, or without us.

life only happens to those of us who are convinced we have no control. and that itself (the submission) is a choice.  and it is a dangerous one.  if i submit to the idea that i have no control over my life, the worst in me will eventually thrive because this is ultimately an acceptance of the idea that i have limitations.  and if i were really being real, which i’m bout to be, i’d have to say that if i am as spiritually aligned as i claim (or try) to be, i am one with God such that what the Universe wills, i also will – therefore eliminating my own limitations. the acknowledgement of possibility, or impossibility, alters my striving.  if nothing is possible, i will try at nothing.  if i believe that the best is possible, i will try to achieve or gain that which i desire most.  and if i “fail,” this proves nothing except that it was not for me.  or that the striving itself was the point (or a number of countless other things). one of the “advantages” of being one with God is not perfection, and does not mean that my life – thus anointed – would ever be without challenges or strife.  but this frees me to have faith in the idea that everything is as it should be, and will always be – through good and bad.   everything happens for a reason.  this is peace.   i am grateful for this revelation.

i am about to be unstoppable.

i am somewhere i have not been in a long time – a place where i am meeting my future.  it is not a crossroads per se, but it is a noticeably distinct moment.  and the message is this:  i can either move forward, and walk into my future.  or, i can stay here. i can either carry the increasingly heavy bags of old, gone and passed, or i can sit them down – right here.  and walk into my next season.  but regardless, the season will pass, with or without me.  and that is a choice.

i suppose, i also have to admit, that these are new ideas for me.  and i have not considered them next to my disbelief in coincidence, and my belief in the idea that some things are beyond our control – though i have noted possible tension.  this is for another conversation – maybe one of you will start it…

10 Responses to “does life really just happen?”

  1. Massah April 5, 2010 at 9:50 pm #

    “Life Happens” when you’re standing still
    Nothing stops moving for you
    You are not the center of the universe
    Keep it Moving!
    DO, ACT, BE!
    When you relinquish control and give up
    “Life Happens” and leaves you behind
    Don’t get left behind
    Keep Up, Be Empowered!
    “Life Happens” when you let it happen
    Good or bad, it’s all up to you
    You can let it happen to you and around you
    or you can make life happen FOR you!
    The choice is yours…
    So what will you do?

    • patrice berry April 6, 2010 at 9:26 am #

      “keep up, be empowered!” say word. you write that, girl?!

  2. BP April 8, 2010 at 1:26 am #

    I feel you. The time is NOW. That is what we have the present and the future is ours…all ours. you stay empowered. read your post aloud. embrace those words in bold: i am about to be unstoppable. that’s some powerful affirmation right there!!

  3. SEBerry April 8, 2010 at 12:23 pm #

    “Unstoppable” huh? She’s Back!

  4. miriam okine April 12, 2010 at 9:01 am #

    love it 🙂

  5. Paul Berry Jr. April 12, 2010 at 10:28 pm #

    This is exactly how I am feeling today and from now on…I hear you Sis!

  6. Rashid Zakat April 27, 2010 at 12:33 am #

    Patrice, you already are and have been unstoppable. I’m happy that you know what the rest of us have known. 🙂

  7. Naomi Nash August 13, 2010 at 2:46 pm #

    Wow. You are great. You are me. “I feels like I jus’ met myself for the first time.”

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